hardest thing to learn during recovery is….. some of your misery is your own fault. you have to actively choose to stop wallowing in your own pain & start to recover. that means stop being self deprecating, start taking care of yourself, start eating healthy, start taking your hygiene seriously, even if it’s hard. & it is hard! but you must.
listen I don’t “like” things, I either read a book/watch a show and forget 0.2 secs later or change my entire lifestyle based on what it was until I find something new
This single image could not be more inaccurate about about Gen Z slang even if the selection process was getting a series of randomly chosen monkeys to tap on keyboards to generate phrases.
This is like… early 2000s millenial speak, and only the emo/weeb ones. Gen Zers were like 5 when people were talking like this.
not to totally derail a funny post but i think this is a prime example of people who cant code switch being pissed off by people who can.
I cant talk much, but what little i can comes in two flavors - at-home talk, and Proper Talk.
the first is basically an appalachian dialect and accent so thick as to be nearly indecipherable to people who speak Vanilla American English, and the second is the way my speech therapist taught me to talk “correctly” and usually what i write in. im obviously much better at the first (i stutter a little less, for example), and i have to actively try to do the second but i can do both.
i believe (correct me if i need to get back in my own lane) that people who speak AAVE have similar experiences.
heres the thing - people fucking hate code switching, especially if you do it in front of them. my father’s family, who are all City Folk, will get blindingly enraged if my sisters and i “talk like trashy hillbillies” in front of them.
it’s not “proper” its “uneducated” is “makes you sound stupid”
sounds a lot like how older people feel about slang, no?
but have you ever met a teenager who isn’t capable of turning off their slang for a presentation? a job interview? hell, just hanging out with grandma?
and the thing is, its not just that they think we’re stupid because they devalue our way of talking. it’s also that they know we’re excluding them. why else would we speak in a way that some people in the room don’t understand, unless the conversation was meant only for those of us who can?
it’s the same reason white people get pissed about spaces for people of color, cishet people furious about pride, able-bodied people who complain about disabled parking spaces.
they’re so used to being the default that the idea of a space, an event, a language that excludes them just. fucking enrages them. they can handle it. it just doesnt compute.
so they devalue it, they call you uneducated and stupid and trashy. they try to imitate the language (as above) to mock it, but all they do is show off just how little of it they understand.
all of this is to say that grasping language well enough that you can flip it like a switch, pick and choose the best words and phrases to make yourself understood in so many wildly different environments?
makes you a thousand times more fluent in a language than someone who just lucked out on being born “the default”
It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is
who is old enough to be part of the fanfic.net era where we literally talked to our characters? like, had conversations with them?
cause I do. as a lonely child of 12 who had no friends, it was a favorite pasttime of mine to boot up the dial-up internet and type out imaginary conversations with ouran high school host club characters in the beginning notes before even starting the damn chapter (which was inevitably 500 words long and absolutely awful)
Modern Author’s Note on Ao3: might discuss some possible triggers, thank readers for comments, apologize for a delay in update, etc–talking to reader, essentially.
Author’s Note on FFN back in 2010:
Author: Y’all are gonna love this cahpter!!!! [Character] not sooooo much
Character:…wh–what’s gonna happen?
Author: Don’t worry about it! ^.^
Character: WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ME??
Author: ;)
Character: D:
those were dark, dark days, man. Today’s Fandom Freshman are sure lucky they missed this.
This when right alongside the detailed disclaimers to avoid lawsuits.
Don’t forget that the author was broken into at least five separate voices, ‘Inside Out’ style.
or where you would have ask blogs for your ocs except it was just in a ff.net story. basically an entire classic authors note except people would ask questions. that was my childhood.
Y'all forgot that sometimes we also appeared in the middle of the text with notes like “(author: noooo >:( character is such a b*tch!!!! character: I’M NOT!!!!)” And it was the crimgiest shit ever but we had fun doing it lmao
“Why did it take you 10 minutes to clean 1 window?” “There was a cat.”
No but. This person is hanging from a harness several stories in the air, on what appears to be a chilly and/or windy day. And they took time to play with a cat.
